Because it's about the project of close relationship, close relationship is never about one person, and communication is an extremely important part of any human relationship.
It is also the case that people with dismissive avoidant attachment have difficulty communicating proactively and openly. So I put my mind to communication and looked for ways to express myself in a more calm, relaxed way that would slowly open up.
This can be applied to that method that came to mind earlier: using white vinegar as invisible ink to express yourself. One could change expressing oneself to trying to communicate. So I thought of using letter writing. Writing letters is also a slower-paced, but very sincere, method of communication.
So I did that.
The first time, I almost burned the whole sheet.
The second time, I turned into using a candle, but it still failed.
The third time, I found it must be burned lightly, actually it should be called heated.
(I also tried writing on trace paper but found that it didn't heat it up and it would turn out like a blister after a burn.)
Because this is not only a communication, but also an attempt to open up my heart and express my inner thoughts, so it is also an exploration of my own self. So I wrote the mirrored letter, to be read through the reflection of the mirror.
"I will not lie to the mirror."
But I found in the process of making it that writing successful mirror letters wasn't too easy.
I tried to write on a light rice paper, but it failed because the ink smudged.
I ended up using a thicker paper, tracing the mirror shape through the bright light and then heating it up.
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